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Saturday, June 18, 2011
I Would Like a Father, Please
Tomorrow is Father's Day. From where I sit, this is not anything to celebrate.
My logical self tells me that I have known wonderful men, surrogate fathers who treated me well and showed me a father's love. My emotional self is hurt and angry … and hurt. This time of year – approaching Father's Day – I seem to lose my perspective.
I have one father who turned his back on me, virtually as soon as he knew I was to be. Some would call him a sperm donor – I don't know that I would be that kind. My birth mother claims that he was the only man who ever loved her – yet he left both of us for his 'first' family. For the wife and daughter that existed before he met the woman who would give birth to me. [Continue Reading ...]
I have another father who stood with a woman, desperate to have children, and told an adoption agency, “Yes, we'll make her our daughter.” And then – less than 3 years later - chose to end his life, leaving the woman to pick up the pieces. His woman was never … stable … again.
I grew up with the second woman, the one who desperately wanted children and was forever damaged by her husband's suicide. She was, from what I've learned, no more unstable than the one who gave birth to me; she just chose to not quit. (I never appreciated – or understood – that before.)
But this isn't about the mothers – it's about the fathers.
Father #1: He was 25; she was 39. He had a family – wife and daughter; she had no one. I look like him – if the agency is to be believed – 6 feet tall, blond and blue eyed. He, from what I understand, had a problem committing to a career, a family … anything.
Father #2: He wasn't healthy; a hole in his heart (or so I was told) limited his physical activity. It also kept him from committing to a job, apparently – although drinking and gambling must not have been a problem, because he spent a great amount of time (and his wife's money) pursuing those activities. Although she didn't know it. One day, when he had gone off to a job that he no longer held, he came back home and handed his wife an empty pill bottle. She didn't drive, his family didn't arrive, and he died. I have my half of his suicide note.
This is Father's Day – it isn't a joyous occasion for everyone. Some of us miss our fathers. Some of us hate our fathers. And some of us wish, with all of our hearts, that we had a father.
Until next time.
DJFriday, August 06, 2010
A Victory for Grey Wolves
Reposted from Random Musings
Earthjustice PhotoFinally some good news!
Defenders of Wildlife PhotoA federal judge ruled, yesterday, that wolves in the Northern Rockies were illegally stripped of their protections under the Endangered Species Act. Thanks to Defenders of Wildlife and Earthjustice, working for and with other conservation groups, wolf hunting in Idaho and Montana is now illegal again.
Sadly, this is not the end of the battle. Anti-wolf sentiment is high in the area, due to conflicts between ranchers and wolves. Media misinformation feeds the problem.
Defenders and Earthjustice continue their battles to ensure the safety of the grey wolves until their recovery is complete and they can be delisted for the right reasons. But, for now, we can enjoy the victory.
Wednesday, February 10, 2010
Now I Need an Idea
After two days of formatting and updating, I think I've finally gotten everything added to this little blog that I can think of adding. It wasn't enough to make it look pretty, it had to do the things that it did when it was hosted on Blogger. No small feat, let me tell you. . . .
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Granted, making it pretty was a good start. But offering comments and trackbacks was something I wasn't ready to lose. With Haloscan shutting down and moving everyone to paid services, I had to get rather creative.
Luckily, Disqus came to my rescue.
Then, there were the expandable posts. I really loved those, but just couldn't imagine how to do it myself. (Got lazy with Blogger doing all of the coding!)
Well, pfft on Blogger! I figured it out and - as far as I'm concerned - they look mahvelous! Let me know what you think.
Tuesday, February 09, 2010
WooHoo and YeeHaw!
I must admit - I was pretty certain that this day was just never going to come. But - lo and behold, and sakes alive - We Have Comments
And they actually work!!
While I was in here rearranging and updating, I decided to tweak the colors and format a bit as well. Let me know what you think. Even if you don't like it.
Me? I really like it - but it is awfully similar to my other blog. May have to break down and change color schemes on this one. We'll see.Thursday, February 04, 2010
How about 'Disqus' for Comments?
Well, we're playing again. Couldn't get the other system to work - definitely need PHP education - but I think this one will do the trick.
We shall see!
Monday, December 14, 2009
Another Test - Ta Da!
Just about done with the formatting. Now just need to see what 2 posts-per-day look like.
Having a terrible time with adding comments. Perhaps I should have learned PHP before I started, eh?
Well, can't get the comments to work. Waiting on (hopefully) some assistance. Meanwhile, at least it's . . .
Purple!
Thursday, January 10, 2008
Karma is Karma, neh?
It's interesting how one's karma always comes back, just not necessarily in the way one expects. . . .
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My first marriage ended badly - because of my inability to ask for what I needed. Instead, I acted out and hurt a good man. For years after, I buried my emotions and hurt everyone who truly cared about me.
Now, my daughter is about to get married. And, thanks to my foolish behavior, she isn't certain that she wants me there.
Karma, neh?
Friday, December 14, 2007
Pets for Christmas
I received an email from the Humane Society that prompted me to write this post: Pets for Christmas.
Please be careful, if you're planning to add a furry friend to your family.
Sunday, November 18, 2007
EcologyFund.com
Are you aware of how much forest the world has lost? It's actually frightening. Just look at these maps from EcologyFund.com. . . .
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Forest Existence Maps
The following maps show the degradation of forests over time:
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| Remaining Frontier Forest Cover |
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Friday, November 16, 2007
Earthjustice
I just wanted to share this lovely email with you and remind you that - You Can Help! Please visit Earthjustice.org today and sign up.
Speak out for the planet and all living things! . . .
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Saturday, November 10, 2007
Modified Template
I have been playing around with the template for this blog today. The changes are small, but it's a start toward getting a new look. . . .
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Or at least they would have been, had they worked. I was trying to add a page element that required upgrading my blog. Long story short - no matter what I did, or where I did it - it sooo didn't work.
What I did change, didn't show up. But - and this was loads of fun - what I didn't change didn't show up, either! I think that Blogger Layouts and I are not going to be friends today. Maybe, someday, I'll start a different blog and use Layouts from the start.
Or maybe I'll just pull all of my hair out and run screaming into the streets. Right now I'm leaning toward the screaming part. lol
Monday, October 22, 2007
Maryland Attacks Domestic Violence
This is an important battle, wherever you live. Consider sending this information to your local authorities, I have.
Random Musings of a Curious Mind
Monday, October 15, 2007
Do You Really Need That Much Water?
Living in the desert, one quickly learns that water is a gift from the Earth, not a guaranteed resource. Conservation becomes a natural part of every daily task. But, happily, what Arizonans do isn't limited to any specific environment. . . .
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- One of the best conservation tools we've found is for the shower. Mark likes short showers, so he's not much of an issue. I, on the other hand, love my showers - long-lasting and hot enough to melt the polish off my toenails. Our solution is a hand-held shower attachment that let's me turn off the water while I'm shampooing and scrubbing. Now, I don't have to rush, but I'm not wasting gallons of water, either.
- Because our drinking water varies in quality between undrinkable and patently toxic, we have a filter on our kitchen faucet. Every time we change the filter, approximately once a month, the instructions require that we run our water for 5 minutes to eliminate excess charcoal.
Rather than letting that water run down the drain - five minutes is a long time - we collect the water and save it to use on plants. (The charcoal keeps the soil refreshed.) Kept in a large pitcher, at room temperature, we don't have to run the water every time a plant needs a drink. And speaking of drinks, we keep a pitcher of filtered water in the fridge - guaranteed cold water, without running the tap until the water gets cold. (Summer in Arizona doesn't really lend itself to cold tap water. Trust me.) - Dishes are another big water waster, since we have to do them by hand and seem to be at the cool end of the supply in our complex. To save as much water as I can, I do the dishes once a day, rather than after each meal. But, it still requires a lot of water.
I've been reading about tankless hot water heaters, which can be installed at the kitchen sink. Imagine being able to have immediate hot water on demand for rinsing dishes. We wouldn't have to keep the water running to keep it warm, saving heaven only knows how many gallons each time we do this already onerous chore. - We don't have a yard, so we're not using water outdoors. Our complex, however, insists on having several patches of grass, which regularly require more moisture than we usually see here in a year. In their favor, at least they run the sprinkler system in the middle of the night, rather than the middle of the day when the heat evaporates the water before it gets anywhere near the lawn.
Many schools and businesses around here don't use sprinkler systems. They flood their grounds, which not only wastes water through evaporation, it creates a breeding ground for mosquitoes, not usually found in large numbers in Southern Arizona. If we decide to buy a home in Arizona, Mark and I have already determined that a desert landscape is our perfect choice - no lawn and only plants that naturally survive here, without excessive watering.
No matter where you live, water conservation is much easier than you might think.
Wednesday, August 29, 2007
Felon Tells Court to Change OS
Elite Torrents BitTorrent server was shut down by the FBI after Scott McCausland, an administrator, pled guilty to two copyright-related charges for uploading Star Wars Episode III to the Internet. . . .
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Sentenced to 5 months in jail and 5 months home confinement, McCausland was ordered - by the court - to install and run Windows if he wants to use a computer during his confinement.
Apparently, the court requires the installation of tracking software to enable them to monitor what sites McCausland visits on the Internet. But, the tracker only works on a Windows platform. McCausland prefers to use Linux (through which he managed to illegally upload SW-EpIII) and doesn't want to have to download and use a Windows OS.
As I understand it, McCausland's lawyers are actually planning to petition the court to force them to change the OS of their monitoring software - for one felon! Insane!
Is it not the court that decides the circumstances of a criminal's punishment - not the criminal? If I were the judge, I believe that I would advise Mr. McCausland to comply or do without a computer. Period!
Saturday, July 28, 2007
Karma
Karma is a fairly well-known, but often confusing, concept.
I always thought that karma was fate, that certain events were destined to happen and free-will wasn't involved. But the more I read, the more I realize that I have a lot to learn. . . .
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I inherit my karma.
I am born of my karma.
I am related to my karma.
I live supported by my karma.
Whatever karma I create, whether good or evil, that I shall inherit."
The Buddha, Anguttara Nikaya V.57 - Upajjhatthana Sutta
In simple terms, karma is causality - actions have consequences. Whether we see those consequences immediately, or in the next life, they will come back to bite us or reward us. Intention is a mental action which can also affect karma. As each physical or verbal action is preceded by a thought or intent to act, consistently negative thoughts may cause us to act in consistently negative ways, causing consistently negative karma.
"Do not think a small sin will not return in your future lives.Just as falling drops of water will fill a large container,
The little sins that steadfast accumulate will completely overwhelm you.
Do not think a small virtue will not return in your future lives.
Just as falling drops of water will fill a large container,
The little virtues that steadfast accumulate will completely overwhelm you."
I have learned recently about 'karmic seeds', which I believe is where I developed the misconception that karma supercedes free-will. Karmic seeds are planted in the mind as a result of our thoughts or intentions. Unkind thoughts plant a small seed; unkind speech or action helps the seed grow. As that seed ripens, it creates a negative karmic influence that can carry through to the next life. Hence, my belief that karma cannot be changed.
Positive thoughts, words, and deeds plant and nurture karmic seeds, as well. What I didn't understand is that these positive seeds can actually destroy negative seeds and reverse the effect. Therefore, I do have control over my karmic future, in this life and the next. I can choose to banish negative thoughts and not speak or act on them; I can choose to nurture positive thoughts and treat all creatures with kindness and respect.
Which leads me to wonder - if it is the thought or intent that determines the nature of the karmic seed, what is the effect if one does a good deed for personal gain?
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